Hi Rattlebone
I'm not sure if were getting off track but if we are maybe one of the mods will make your post into the start of a new thread about dealing with interpersonal issues - or something. Hah ... when Walks was complaining Ben owed him money I was thinking of starting a thread for people who had stuff borrowed that hadn't been returned... LOL
I want to respond to what your saying here because I think we're getting close to some of the core issues.
All the quotes below are from Rattlebone's last post
My initial response over there was questioning the statement made by the person in question in regards to their assumption that the Carnes had whites in ceremonies, or people they assumed were such.
One of the things I notice is people usually have areas where they argree and areas where they disagree, and if they share an interest in an area they argree they may put the area they disagree on the back burner. As time passes and they see more and more of the area they disagree they realize more and more they really disagree and then the area where there is a disagreement becomes more and more of a priority to resolve. If this fails some bitter feelings can result because the areas of disagree begin to over flow and contaminate even the areas where there is agreement .
I on the other hand won't make any real concrete statement or decision on the matter of Sundances as I am not one, and don't know much about them.
I think the point is, after allowing non natives to participate in central roles in these ceremonies, and seeing the problems that resulted, there is many Elders who decided long term preservation of the structure of these traditions was more important than allowing individuals to occupy central roles in these ceremonies . I know very little about the details of these ceremonies, but common sense suggests expecting some individuals to make some personal sacrifices in order to facilitate the long term preservation of these traditions is the 'side" i want to support.
I don't have much sympathy for non native people who insist they should have the freedom to whatever role suits them in a traditional ceremony, but I do have a lot of sympathy for the mixed blood people who have been involved for decades and even generations who are now not only being asked to step back , but are being made the target of as lot of resentment for problems they never personally had any part in creating.
A mixed blood person I have a lot of respect for has always had Sundancers in their family, and they told me how their cousin who isn't enrolled was in the middle of fufilling his commitment and people in their community respected this as the family is well known, but then some Sundancers from somewhere else came and just treated their cousin like a piece of shit. The whole family and even the community was really offended.
So while I fully support those Elders who are looking at the big picture and who want to protect and preserve these traditions for future generations, I am aware of the sacrifice thats being demanded of a lot of people who occupy those gray areas, I don't support hatred . Not ever . And I do support those who have enough respect to see the big picture and make the sacrifice of steping back.
However I do not believe in the concept of "race," so such factors would not bother me as long as it was okay with the elder(s) or spiritual leader(s). Allowing NONS into such things can be problematic, and troublesome I agree, but the problems they can cause I have seen caused by people who were of Indian blood themselves.
Racism is a really complicated topic, and it seems to be a few different things that get tangled together.
In the case of non native people being excluded from some aspects of traditional cultures I think the underlying reasons are to do with what happenes when people carrying the world view of primarily non native cultures get mixed in overwhelming proportions with a few people who carry a primarily indigenous world view. I agree that these problems are not only carried by non native people, but if the native community and Elders are going to have the job of dealing with these problems, it seems they should be allowed to focus on their own people , without being overwhelmed by a never ending torrential flow of non native people.
I personally don't think the Creator see's any person on this planet different then another, or loves another less because of such a thing as race. It is in my belief that a spiritual person has the duty of helping People period. This of course DOES NOT MEAN that I believe people should just be doing whatever ever they want in regards to ceremonies and Native ways either. I have known many an elder in my life who would allow trusted NONS into ceremonies if they trusted them, or people who did not look NDN as long as they trusted them too. Sure it was not something that happened frequently, but it did happen.
I think the underlying concerns influencing this dialog is much more based in maintaing and respecting cultural protocols , and the importance of preserving native traditions within a cultural environment which preserves these.
A lot of that has Grey areas, but life is full of grey areas and issues to deal with in itself.
Yes and it is these gray areas and the people in them are the main force which is interfereing with creating protective boundaries and undermining the power of many Native people who have very legitimate concerns about maintaining correct cultural protocols So you get some people trying to say there should be no gray areas, and in their pain at continuously being violated, directing hatred at these people and saying people are either NDN or not period.
My own opinion is there are people who fall between the cracks and who are for one reason or another are legitimately influenced and a part of both cultures, and if people find themselves in this position they have a responsibility to try and solve the problems their community creates.
One of the simplist solutions seems to me to be that the people occupying gray areas should step back from occupying the central and sensitive positions of traditional leadership , and leave these positions to be occupied by people who are strongly supported by culturally intact native communities.
The other thing people in gray areas can do to make sure they aren't a part of the problem is to make sure they aren't supporting leadership outside of those who have the strong cultural and community support reffered to above.
When I came to this site a year ago, the person whom made that post over on Indianz was here side by side with two of the posters still present, and they were backing Mr.Carnes. One of those people they were here backing is of course white looking and un- enrolled. So when I see them making such statements now it bothers me because it seems to me they are saying one thing, and then doing another.
Rattlebone, I'm not suprised by this at all , because as i pointed out these situations are composed of many interconnected things and people often put aside a disagreement in one area to work together in the area where they agree. I don't see it as hypocrisy, i see it as human beings trying to find a path through a complex and unprecedented cultural situation within the context of their own lives, personal alligences and joys and pains. Of course we all are a bit confused . But personal attacks and trying to humiliate each other isn't going to help.
Heck didn't most of the leaders of AIM have records?
I already posted this link, but learning Billy Tayaks involvement in this situation it is probably even more relevent.
http://newagefraud.org/smf/index.php?topic=1326.0Another thing connected to this , I hesitate to say much about .... because i only heard some grumblings and don't fully understand this or how different tribes see this, but in some traditions, the roles of Spiritual leadership and being a warrior are kept sepreate. Maybe this is because it's really hard to work to create harmonious relationships and confront intractable enemies at the same time. Whatever the reasons for this, I am under the impression some cultures Elders very strongly disagreed with people involved in AIM being given any rights to lead some types of ceremonies. I'm not sure if this is relevent to this situation or the ceremonies in question, and maybe someone else would be better able to explain this , and if that might be part of the issue here.
Perhaps I would not feel as strongly about this issue and some of it's players had I not received the threats by them I have.
I agree that using threats isn't helpful, I don't support this. But on the other hand i understand this just shows people are feeling really desperate to hang onto power and control and they are feeling so confused and upset they doing crazy things to achieve this. i don't think anyone in this situation is a "bad person" and i see all of you making serious efforts to do good things. I just wish you'd stop trashing each other on a person level. In case you haven't noticed, ( LOL ) we are all a bit screwed up and sometimes do dumb things.
One of the things mediation teaches is that everybody is acting out of a legitimate need , and everybodies real needs deserve respect.
The questions that have been asked here are about authorization , cultural protocols and how they are being maintained are are legitimate questions which connect with very legitimate needs.
While I see long term cultural protection as more important than the rights of individuals to have experiences, i also feel a lot of sympathy for the people who find themself in a gray area.
Rattlebone, like i've said, I respect many of the arguements you bring forward advocating for these people, but one of the things that has bothered me about what you bring to the table, is while you are a strong advocate for the rights of people who find themselves some where in between, i don't see you counterbalancing this with equally strong advocacy for the responsibilities and sacrifices to the bigger picture these people must accept if they aren't going to be part of the problem .
I understand these are really deeply painful issues for a lot of people, but respect for protocols and maintianing traditions in a good way for future generations seems like it should be everyones first priorotiy. Once we get that clear, we need to agree on how to do this. My own opinion is the most effective way to achieve this is by leaving positions of leadership to people living in strong traditionally minded communities.
The questions being asked here about Ben are not personal but simply , does he have that traditional community and the Elders within those communites giving him sufficent support?
Again, I'm sorry to jump in here as i know very little about the details of this situation or the specific traditions being discussed. My only strength is, i'm not personlly involved and my common sense hasn't become confused by being personally involved.
I really hope this helps this situation be less painful for people.