Excuse me, Kevin, but I think you may have misconstrued what apukjij had to say:
"but you see if when i raise the Pipe and present it to all of Creation, i must have the backing from the Traditional Elders of my Nation,"
I respect what was said in the quote above. This person did not suggest permission is needed to pray. What is said is that backing of the nation and elders is needed to carry a pipe. This seems very respectful, humble, and faithful. If only non-natives could be as humble as Indians are about the pipe, there would probably be a lot less confusion (and far fewer pipes out there).
Most of my Lakota in-laws and friends speak their language and practice their traditional spiritual ways. They are so humble about the pipe and most do not have a personal pipe. They are still able to pray and go to ceremony and give thanks for the ones who carry the pipe for the people. I've never heard a Lakota who speaks his/her language refer to themselves as a "pipe carrier" or a "sun dancer" - these are seen as New Age terms.
From the tiny bit of what I think I have learned from my husband and his elders, hardly anyone used to have a pipe of their own. Far as I can tell, having your own pipe, that's a new age way, too.
My husband, as a Lakota, has his own sense of where this desire to have a pipe comes from, so I'll share some of his words:
"This all started after the United States government started letting the people practice their way openly again. By that time, many had lost their way or had it destroyed, had it beaten out of them, or were adopted out of their communities, but all were subjected to Christian ways that taught them condemn and reject their own natural ways. The Non-natives who come into this way, maybe through a friend, they saw something and they had an illusion of it, which really misinterpreted the way of thought of the Lakota people. This misunderstanding was then mistranslated and manipulated in so many ways that, today, many of the Lakota people themselves feel that they cannot practice their own way anymore. The mass confusion out there is creating a lot of confusion for the Lakota, too. In the past, only certain ones carried the pipe, because they had to help the people. There never was such a thing as "medicine man" or "shaman", these are just new age mistranslations. What these misguided ones don't realize is that a common man could be gifted with a certain knowledge or wisdom that he could bring from the other side into this world of realities."
best, ska